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Thursday, February 14, 2013

#Holidays: Single on Valentine's Day

I'm not really a fan of Valentine's Day.  I don't hate it- I just don't really see the point of it... and that's not because I'm single on Valentine's Day.

Even back in my High School days (twenty plus years ago), I found it more exasperating than anything.  Every year on Valentine's Day, our school would hand out pink paper hearts to all the girls to wear.  If a boy got them to talk, they had to give the boy their heart.

I found it annoying, because I had to repeatedly tell girls that I didn't care about "winning" their hearts, because their not talking was getting in the way of accomplishing stuff in class when I was partnered with them.  Not only that, but listening to the guys talking about how many hearts they won often made me wonder how women were to win respect when such events encouraged men to see Love as a competition- with the man who has the most hearts the winner.  I found it a little distasteful, to be honest.

Though I'm sure my attitude probably frustrated- and possibly bothered the girls due to the fact that I displayed no interest in pursuing them on that day... after all, many of them were bragging about how many guys were trying to get their hearts.  As if that was a gauge to measure their popularity.  That was something else that bothered me about Valentine's Day back then, since (as my best friend can attest) I really didn't give much thought to being popular, and didn't really seek it out.

This annual High School event probably helped to contribute to my dislike of "relationship games" that people play... but that's another discussion.

But that's not the only reason I'm not a huge fan of the day.  I've been dumped on Valentine's Day (via answering machine), wound up having arguments with girlfriends, and even been cheated on during Valentine's Day.

All good reasons, I think- though the main reason is something much more fundamental: I don't need a "special day" to remind me to tell someone I love that I love them, or to do something special for them.  It's something I try to do every day, because I don't love them on just one day- but every day... so, I don't see the point of it.

And to be honest, I can also see why single people don't like the day.  For some reason, Society seems to think being single is a "bad" thing- a lonely thing- and that single people on Valentine's Day should be pitied because they don't have someone to share the day with.  Being single is NOT a bad thing.  I've been single for several years now (at least six years), and have been quite content.

Would I like to have someone in my Life to share today with?  Sure.  Do I need someone in my Life?  No, I don't.  I'm single on Valentine's Day, and happy.


  1. I don't hate the day but I should since I was dumped on the day also. Things like that were done in school here too but we were kids. Kids know nothing about love. They just think they do. Many adults have no clue for that matter. Hating the day is not a positive thing. Hating what society made it is though. I wrote on the topic too. Read it. I do not think being single plays into what the day "should" mean. You can be single and still care/love someone. I could say more but if you read what I wrote, you will see my point and the meaning there.

    1. I don't hate the day either- I'm just not a fan of it. I'm rather indifferent to the day itself. If anything, my problem is with the importance that Society seems to place on it and on being in a relationship.

    2. Sometimes, it is better to understand things people do find important by removing societies view. If we think negative on one topic or even indifferent due to societies list of holidays, then, even more people would find a need to be negative. Try to see what you wrote outside the box. The day doesn't have to have meaning to you. Life should have that meaning. But it does have meaning to others. Positive thinking and you know I am right, goes much further than negative. Just a thought is all.

    3. My intent wasn't to be negative- but rather to simply state my thoughts on it. I have no problem with people celebrating it- I just don't see the need myself. *shrug*